Are you cyber single? You don’t know if this applies to you? Well read on, and let’s clear it up. I define cheating as the act of doing anything you cannot do in front of your significant other.
Still not sure?
Are you the person that loves your Him/Her, but as soon as you pick up your phone or open your laptop and log onto facebook, twitter, tumblr, etc. you’re as single as a dollar bill… This goes out to you!
This is where the problem sets in, there is nothing wrong with having social networks, lets just stop abusing them. If you get on the computer with the sole intention of getting the attention of the opposite sex, yet you’re in a relationship, you my friend are cyber single.
First thing is if you want to be single, be single, it is that simple. Stop causing the unneeded heartbreaks and headaches that have already made our generation so insecure. Save someone the embarrassment of being in love with someone who is only willing to claim him or her on his or her terms. Being in a relationship you have to be considerate of the other’s feelings. Secondly more time than none, you are flirting with a fantasy. Yeah, I said it. Once these people find out what you look like in real life, your real attitude, and your personality is flat, they are not going to want you. I understand that the social networks have created an outlet for you to display the alternate you, but if you need to let that “person” come out, do it in the bedroom, ROLE PLAY!
No, seriously, the things that are hidden in instant messages, direct messages, direct mail, e-mail, and everything in between is bound to be revealed at some point. If you have to hide it from your spouse, maybe you don’t need a spouse. Abusing monogamy via social networks has spread quicker than any other virus; luckily you’re not catching anything other than a flirtatious gesture.
As young men and women in these times that our technological advances have tremendously bypassed our moral standards we have to have more self-control. It is so unnecessary to share yourself with so many people especially when you’ve already found that “special someone.” We seriously as a whole have to do better for the sake of relationships. Remember just because its there doesn’t mean you have to partake in it. Just because someone writes you doesn’t mean you have to write him or her back.
Discipline is everything in a world of temptations…
Until next time...
<3 Marie
